Hers was a mostly peaceful journey. She had done a lot of work on herself before this journey began and was already mostly living a peace-filled life. She did do some introspection, some soul searching to get to a place of acceptance. Though, she did have some challenges. Most of these were disappointment that she wouldn’t be in this physical world to see her daughter’s life continue to blossom and to see her grandchildren grow up. She was only in her early 60’s and in some ways she felt it was too soon, but she knew that this physical end would now be inevitable.
Because she was mostly at peace with her journey, there were not issues that needed resolving, there weren’t challenges to be fixed. Our work became mostly about just holding space for her and with her – surrounding her in pure and unconditional love – so that her outer world resembled her inner world and supported her in that experience.
You see, although she was in a hospice, she was in a shared room, where the energies of the other patients and their families constantly pushed into her space. As much as she surrounded herself with what was important for her, there was still this ongoing invasion into the sanctuary she tried to create for herself.
So our work was simply creating and expanding this energy of pure and unconditional love into the full size of the room. And the feel of it was palpable.
We would see people walk in and instantly let out a sigh and start to relax. You know, the way it feels when you have been running around all day and you finally get home, kick off your shoes and you can stop and take a breath.
We would see expressions on faces change instantly from furrowed brows and stressed, worried looks to ones of peace and calm.
People would just come in and silently sit, wanting to soak up the gentleness, the peacefulness, the serenity that enveloped them.
No words were needed. There was silent communication between us, just gently holding hands, feeling the comfort of all that surrounded us – like being wrapped in a soft warm blanket on a cold and blustery Winter’s day.
Our hearts and souls remembered and knew that this is how home felt; that place from where we had come and to which we will all one day return.
Pure and Unconditional Love.
This is what Holding Space for someone and with someone feels like.
This is what Focused Energy Support is all about.